LUCAS FABRAY Sketchblog

Sorry for the radio silence, compadres. Drawing some super secret biz for some seriously awesome people. I hope you are doing well!

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Gift sketch for B. A quiet afternoon for a girl and her pup.

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Off to be a professional chef for the night! So stoked!

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30 Day Trans* ChallengeDay 24: Who is your favorite LGBT actor/musician/director/artist? Why?Mmm… I’m going with Romaine Brooks.
When I first got beyond the usual greats (Toulouse-Lautrec, Van Gogh, Caravaggio, etc) and started looking for queer artists, it was pretty intense biz …all Mapplethorpe, Tom of Finland with a little David Hockney thrown in from library books. All mind blowers, all dudes. So, I set off to find more women artists crossing my fingers to find a gay lady in the mix. When I found Romaine on an old Geocities website, it was as though something fell into place. Here was a stunning lesbian painter who focused on the figure and messing with gender stereotypes. The use of darks and grays gave her paintings a haunting levity without having to prove anything. The poet Robert de Montesquiou wrote an appreciation calling her “the thief of souls.” I certainly found myself being drawn back to her work time and time again.
Last year, I was at a gallery show of well known LGBTQ artists and her Self-Portrait, 1923 was there. When I saw the painting, it was literally like I was kicked in the gut. Then, I couldn’t stop smiling.
Other works by Romaine Brooks:
The Cross of France, 1914
Peter, a Young English Girl, 1923
Una Troubridge, 1924
Plus, she penned my favorite quotation, “Be a slave to nothing but your toothbrush.” :>

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kiltbear:

lukefabray:

kiltbear:

lukefabray:

Messing around today with creating some tattoo flash around the topic of consent. Last night, I had a pretty disturbing conversation with someone who wasn’t really up on what the hell consent means and had some f’ed strategies for combining sex and alcohol. We argued back and forth… a lot.
A person who is intoxicated cannot legally give consent. If folks are too drunk to make decisions and communicate with their partner, they are too drunk to consent. Consent is a voluntary, sober, imaginative, enthusiastic, creative, wanted, informed, mutual, honest and verbal agreement. Consent doesn’t just mean the absence of a “no.” And, just because someone says “yes” to one type of intimacy doesn’t mean it greenlights the partner for another type of intimacy i.e. oral sex doesn’t mean you get to go for vag or booty sex (etc.) without discussing it first. Consent is a progressive conversation!
Plus, it’s hot as eff.

Howdy. I have been enjoying your tumblr for a while. Found you via the “paper” tumblr and have been following you ever since.
As a 48 year old gay man in an open relationship in San Francisco who enjoys differing levels of intimacy with differing level of friendship (ie, long term friends with bennies to one night stands) there is another side of your statement to consider.
If you are tipsy and come on to someone and ask them to do “x” with you (whether you know them well or not at all), and they are interested, is your expectation that they should wait until you are stone cold sober to make sure you mean it? In this kind of case are you asking them to own “your stuff” rather than taking your own responsibility?
Then again, if you don’t move that fast or interact that way or give it up so easily, this situation may never apply. If you are talking about someone you have been dating and it’s pretty clear you move into physical intimacy more slowly, and they wait until you are drunk and more pliable to make a concerted effort to push your limits, yeah, then that’s pretty nasty and they should be avoided no matter how hot they are.
Then there are folks who actually use drugs (including alcohol) to specifically enable themselves to move past a particular limit because societal guilt etc may be holding them back from doing it totally sober and clean. Again, here, if it’s a pickup situation is the other person supposed to figure out which situation it is? And if its an actual dating situation, hopefully you’ve made it clear ahead of time what you expect your paramour’s response should be.
Ultimately, what I am saying is that except in the most extreme cases, as an adult, it is still your responsibility, altered or not, and it’s not “fair” to expect the other party to know at the moment exactly which state you happen to be in.

Heyo, Kiltbear! Thank you for the note and I hope yer Sunday is going well! I’m stoked to wrestle with your reblog. Sounds like you have a particular senario. Forgive me if I do not address all of the specifics you have in mind?
I’m going to go with consent being permission explicitly granted by an individual who is physically and mentally capable of providing it. So, it is the responsibility of the person who wants to engage in the sexual activity to insure that he, she or they have the valid consent of the other to engage in the activity.
The house party/club situation: If someone’s tipsy (A) and comes on to another person (B)…I would put the onus of responsibility on B. Knowing that incapacity or physical helpless can invalidate consent. B does’t know what A’s had to drink, what drugs they’ve taken, what their past biz has been, etc. B does’t know where A’s at on the intoxication spectrum, if they are coming down or if they’ve just worked through three more quick drinks to walk over or if they were pressured over. Just because A is openly drunk, flirting and pawing B up…doesn’t mean B has valid consent, y’know?
Everyone should be able to do consensual, safe, sane and hot activities. But this ain’t Burger King… you can’t have it the way you want it, when you want it. Taking it fast or slow, there are too many factors involved to make assumptions about sex. There needs to be a consensual agreement between the partners then let the hotness commence! We need to do better making consent an expectation (especially with the 14-24yo bracket.)
Thinking about this a little more in a community, rarely does A and B have this interchange alone…usually there’s like 10-30 people around that know A or B and see the drunken hook-up coming/or predatory behavior happening. How can bystanders can play a role in keeping the community on the up-and-up? A gut check for both A and/or B.
In short, wherever we are, it is our personal responsibility to have consent before engaging in sexual activities with another person and to keep the conversation going. Free of cohesion, of pressure, of “how about now? No? How about now?” badgering.
That’s all I have for now. Definitely up for your response. Keep on bloggin’ rad pics and Paper drawings.
Cheers!Luke

I believe I understand where you are coming from. We are indeed are brothers keeper when are at our best. The ideas you present when talking to person B are high minded, responsible and loving. It’s the best of community. It breaks down in practice though in practical application. It’s a wonderful ideal, but ultimately, person B needs to make a judgement call as to the fitness of A in making their request. There are plenty of hyperbolic examples we could come up with where its obvious. (See that horrifying events in the news recently.) Often it is not that clear cut.
So while it is important to appeal to B’s higher angels, there is still some serious tough talking to do to person A. It’s not just person’s B’s responsibility. I can imagine, and have been witness and party to being person B and person A being manipulative to get what they want but afraid to admit to themselves never the less anyone else. (Think straight boy trying to deal with homo attraction.)
It is both (all?) parties responsibilities. Don’t just lay it on B. there are too many A-s out there looking to absolve themselves of being responsible for themselves. (Gee, I was so drunk I don’t remember a thing… )(yet the next time they are drunk they do it again.)
Add to that if A is drunk, it’s not likely B is totally sober either. It’s everybody’s fault and everybody’s responsibility.
Being so well beyond 14-24 at this point, I’m listening intently to what you have to say. So much has changed, yet so much is still quite similar.
We could have a very long conversation on the conflation of physical intimacy with emotional intimacy. The USA inculturation is that they are coincident and the same. It’s great when they occur together, but they are not the same thing. We don’t teach their differences which contributes to lots of emotional suffering, and poor decisions with what we do with our bodies and with whom.

Writing this during the Louisville-Duke game. Ahh, my bracket hangs in the balance! But, in any regards, thank you for your volley back!
When it comes down to it, if B proceeds to hook-up with dubious consent…I do lay the responsibility ultimately with B. It shouldn’t be our higher angels that chime in, but a standard of behavior. This is what should be taught, this is what we should hold to.
It’s not that I’m wailing on B. It’s that I think education for everyone should start from B’s perspective. What would we do if we were in B’s shoes? I’ve been in those shoes a many times and I’ve learn for myself where the standards are and how they feel.
With the ‘they’re both drunk’ senario… too many folks think this is a ‘get out of jail free’ card. If I’m drunk and they’re drunk, it’s cool, right? Nahh, it’s premeditated.
That all being said, we do need to clear the way to educate the shit out of folks (when developmentally appropriate) where it comes to alcohol, consent, safe sex, sex positivity, healthy relationships, sexual health, emotional health, identity issues, etc. We need to set ourselves (As and Bs) up to be healthier.
You’ve brought up the case of the closeted person a couple of times… I think it’s pretty f’ed to feel like someone have to get ripped to be intimate with someone, but internalized homophobia is a helluva thing. I’m just not down with anyone taking advantage of someone’s drunk ass emotional woes. Too many opportunities to get in with someone who has control and knows exactly what they are doing and are glad to be doin’ it! As time goes on, I think that’s changing for the LGBTQ community, yeah? I’m seeing some good strides with accepting identity and access to better information.
Attaway, Louisville! (My bracket is still intact. Cheap thrills. :>)Luke

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I think artists have day jobs because it’s easier than actually making art.

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emily e rock: A poem for Luke, and for the lonely-hearted

emilyerock:

In exchange for his illustration of my book characters, I wrote this poem for Luke, based off an illustration he did. Hope you enjoy.

Old and frail, in a bed only half warm, Henry, he

looked onto his life and saw,

sleeping states that had come to define,

the stages of his life.

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And this is why I’m going to leave the writing to Emily. :>

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Thank you, friends! You definitely helped motivate me to finish today. Hope you digs!

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Friends! I’m going to sleep. I’ve got a question for any interested elves out there… What do you think some interesting tattoos for this person would be?

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I’ve been head hunted! …for a sweet job in Instructional Technologies. The search committee wants to see an online portfolio. So, here’s a stab at sketching it out with my trusty Paper app. Wish me luck?

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30 Day Trans* ChallengeDay 22: Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
Mmm… I think being trans* certainly gives a person more to consider in life and takes up a significant share of mind that could otherwise be working to figure out a career path. Kinda like starting a race with a millstone around yer neck.
For me, transitioning was a lot more urgent than thinking of my vocation. I prioritized it first and I was satisfied with taking a day job (which I love) that didn’t end up taking all my time. Now that I’ve got my transition under control, some more schooling out of the way …I’m looking to get back into pursuing a more sustainable career path full force. Still wish I could win the lottery, though, ngl.

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For Emily. Congratulations on finishing the first draft of your first novel. :>

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Infinitely inspired by bearded gospel men.

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Heyo, folks! Should I do this whole thing in color? Or keep it in black/blue?

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